Monday, February 26, 2018

Are we looking for Validation?



Insecure and wounded by the surrounding and captivated with norms of general livelihood, it is difficult to stay tuned and tap into unlimited willpower from time to time. Perform or perish is the only notion we generalize our daily standard with. If you take a breather you might disappoint someone, something might be slipped. And constant panic of what did I missed is too much very often. Am not talking about the productivity of an employee, rather a mere basic existence of a human being to live a few good years left in the balance.

But the society and its high stature have made sure we report to its only supremacy by submitting ourselves to someone else's control, where our sole minuscule existence is judged under the microscope of a stranger. The only way we feel relevant when someone tells how worthy we are. Why isn't it enough to be just being yourself. Why we constantly struggle to be something more, flaunting our superficial gimmicks to impress the world and threaten the rivalry. Maybe it is the fast pacing competition or ceaseless battle for survival.

Appraisal has made the work environment more of a battleground of pointing fingers rather than employees working as a team towards a common goal of success. Don't take me wrong, appraisals are important, for not letting some lazy birds slipping personal advantage of leniency. Also, we need discipline in work environment an of course in our lives, which unfortunately has to be forced and can only be implemented by validating each performance. So, there you go, validation of another person to define your work. Now if this system is fair enough, is a question debatable. And we all can agree, this is necessary evil we can all live with.

But let us look outside your work, social media along with its multi-dimensional perks has brought many unconventional obligations of fantasy and absurd competition, you will only feel beautiful based on million-plus likes, and a thousand comments you have on your snap. As fake as a few comments are, are the posts real enough that you've shared? We measure how much we are loved by the number of Instagram followers we have. Our proficiency in poetry and art is judged by how many likes we have on our blogs. Does it mean I am a good enough artist or just that I have lots of acquaintances? Its a question yet to be answered.

Since we wake up till we sleep, it's all the pressure we subconsciously stress, which inhibits us from becoming our true self. We lose track of our core personality and become one of those machines which function well but has no empathy or compassion for any living soul around us. We push each other in queues or while taking an elevator. We don't accommodate people in our reserved space, we rarely ask our fellow traveller if they are okay, or can we help them somehow. And this is the obvious social norm these days, live for only yourself.

We are so busy exerting on how someone judges us, we are losing the basic human emotion which validates us in our own eyes. Maybe you won't have a huge number of the network following you but a few connection you might have will be genuine enough to keep reminding you of who you really are.

In a nutshell, let your creations make you happy, let you work make you feel proud. Once you have achieved a certain stature in your own eyes, maybe you won't require other's to validate your not so minuscule existence in some form or other.

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