We live in a world of distractions, where a vainly posed selfie lasts forever than true love. It's not about finding the one anymore, it's about the longevity of our lasting interest in the one.
World today is driven with perception and social media likes, rather than the unmasked reality. Truth is too hard to handle and being present for someone without judgement is next to impossible.
We rather suffer in our unjustified insecurities and not trust anyone than stop being judgmental and let kindness show our strength. Actually no, kindness and compassion are for the weak. Even though we are all alone in our own boxes, we rather are enticed with the temporary glimmer than find a true partner.
Where are those times, when we used to fight for love? Where the borders and wars failed in front of true love. Now the scepticism is winning the battle and as technology made everything easy, we complaint and make excuses hiding behind our "why not"
It's one thing to have doubts, scared of getting hurt, but it's another to expect everything on a silver platter. Good things in life come after fighting struggle, but our brain goes overboard scared of that tiny fight and start putting everyone in the boxes filled with judgement and perception, and suffocating something before it began.
I believed it is a good thing when we find a connection, someone who understands our pain, our fears, our vulnerabilities and doesn't box us. But in social observation, my understanding stood baffled as I witnessed the stronger the connection is the more scared people are, the shortened the relationship and more broken the people come out of it. Why? Is it because we realize this is real, and we are so damn scared that we deliberately sabotage it. Or are we so used to the fun and gimmicks, that we are scared of losing the cheap thrills?
The world is moving ahead at a faster pace than we can imagine. Every day there will be distractions and means to find new options. It's on us to know when we need to pause and enjoy the birds chirping. And it's on us to know the difference between the meaningless shiny sparks and the real connection to build on. And decide what we want.
But don't be dramatic, it is not only your choice. And I hate to say this, even if it would terribly hurt, it is waste to keep waiting for the one who doesn't value you. Even if you felt the strongest bond in your life, if the other person is not mature enough to handle it, then it's sad but you are not on the same page. The worst part is when they knew this connection exists and chose to ignore it. All the more reason to leave them behind in a closed chapter and start a new one.
Easier said than done, yes. But life doesn't stop from anyone and if you can't move ahead, you are jus' stuck. If you have that connection, it's due time Act before you lose it. And if you are stuck because he/she is not on the same page, its also due time to move on. So, When would you decide?
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